"Style" of Grief Management

In the story "Style," there is a certain irony in Azar so intensely questioning why the young girl danced in the streets. Her family burned to death, her house in shambles, her life completely altered, and she danced. She was not crying, not hiding, just dancing. Azar being so puzzled by this comes across as almost funny given that in an earlier story, "How to Tell a True War Story," men of the company were in awe of Rat Kiley essentially torturing a baby buffalo. No one questioned his act of tremendous violence, but Azar cannot wrap his head around the girl's peaceful demeanor and dancing. Killing the buffalo and dancing on tiptoes are both outlets utilized to avoid the pains of sorrow. Perhaps Azar, so adjusted to the world of violence around him in war, was offput by an act of non-violence. In war, violence is met with consequent violence; but the girl, whose family fell victim to violence, was not taking any violent counter-measures. This girl, just like the soldiers, carries the weight of war, death, and destruction. Everyone touched by war is programed to handle its painful grasp differently, as confusing as it may be to onlookers from the outside.